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BUSINESS COACHING

Is there conflict or tension in your company? Chaos and lack of direction? Many corporate executives are benefiting from coaching in Systems Theories that Marriage and Family Therapists practice from. Whether the group is a family or a large multi-faceted corporation, Systems Theories identify the group dynamics and offer an understanding that can lead to change.

For many, the majority of our waking hours are spent with our co-workers. When there is tension in these relationships, it spills over into the rest of our lives: Gaining an understanding of how to manage these relationships through use of self and create possibility of success for all involved is invaluable.

ADDICTION

While the current Alcoholics Anonymous model of substance abuse can be helpful, studies show it is more effective used in conjunction with a comprehension of family dynamics around the substance-abuser. Whether a family member’s or your own, an addiction can cause an overwhelming feeling of hopelessness. Whether the addiction is to substances, eating, sex, or whatever else, it serves a purpose -- as a coping mechanism. Exploring the process surrounding the addiction can aid in understanding its origin and provide relief.

SPIRITUALITY

With so many conflicting opinions on religion and spirituality in our society, exploring one's own journey can be confusing, even painful. Often, messages received from outside discourage us from pursuing our quest for whatever we define as our higher power. Here, questions about personal spirituality are explored in a safe, non-judgmental atmosphere, allowing one to discover one’s own connection without interference.

ANGER/FEAR/SADNESS

Isn't this the age of technology, of rational thought? Then why are even the most basic decisions controlled by our primitive brain? Sometimes it's that the anger, fear and/or sadness we experience devolve from another family member. As children, most of us are taught not to acknowledge these feelings; we are taught to ignore them. Therapy can help identify and understand these feelings, helping us to live life from a position of possibility rather than anger, fear or sadness.

TRAUMA/ABUSE

Trauma occurs from combat in war, fighting on the streets, being a victim of a crime, from abuse or observing abuse in ones own family. In some cases, this creates Posttraumatic Stress Disorder. Wherever the trauma began, anger and fear in a family can be transferred intergenerationally, from parent to child, to grandchild, etc. There is no one to blame for this - it is a natural process that occurs. However, if one decides to examine the process, one can break the cycle and choose a different way of being for themselves and future generations

ADOPTION

Think of the relationship of adoptive parents, birth parents and the adopted child as points on a triangle. And while adoption is generally a satisfying experience, trauma does sometimes occur at one point or another of this “adoption triangle.” For the birth parents, feelings of loss; for the adoptive parents, feelings of sorrow at their inability to conceive; for the adoptee, no matter his/her age - confusion. Acknowledgment of these feelings, each to the other, can bring understanding and relief.

COUPLES THERAPY

Finding your significant other is a major achievement in life. When there is conflict in this important relationship, it is sometimes hard to see possibility, and feel the positive emotions felt at the beginning of the relationship. Every-day responsibilities can get in the way. The way in which conflict is viewed in our society can make it seem like an impossible impasse. Through understanding the emotional process, instead of the content (i.e.what the argument is about), couples can recapture the love and understanding experienced in the beginning of the relationship.

INDIVIDUALS

Sometimes it may feel like a storm going on inside of you. You may find yourself in a place where you feel all alone and different from everyone else. The feelings may seem paralyzing. Unexpressed and unexplored difficult family relationships and emotion will bring any human to this place of confusion. Through exploration and understanding with a therapist, this place of hopelessness can turn into a place of possibility. Whether you've been diagnosed with a Mental Illness or your simply struggling to keep your head above water, gaining an understanding by speaking with a therapist can help.

Jillian Chelsey, MA

MFT # 46156

Jillian Chesley, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, has spent the past twenty years focused on understanding human behavior in relationships. With a passion for inspiring individuals to claim their own personal excellence, Jillian’s expertise is understanding interpersonal dynamics, and successfully coaching individuals, couples, families and groups into reaching their highest self. Jillian’s background includes a Bachelor of Arts degree in Organizational Communication, a ten year career as a Technical/Corporate Instructor and ten years providing coaching with a Master of Arts degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. In addition to her private practice, Jillian has taught psychology and management classes for University Of Phoenix and is completing her book Mental Health For Consumers.

When working with clients, whether individually, in couple's/family therapy, or in groups, Jillian's primary theoretical focus is Bowen Theory.

Bowen Theory is a comprehensive way of thinking that has proven to be effective, not only with families, but in all realms of individual and relationship problems.